Miscellaneous Rumbles

How’s This for a Friend?

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I put a Fishman Loudbox Artist on layaway at a local guitar shop a few weeks ago. I'm starting to work up a solo acoustic project, and I figured that somewhere down the road I would need amplification to do live, in-person shows. I dont really have the money for it right now, but I figured by spring/summer, when maybe/possibly things might start opening up a bit for outdoor performances, I would pay it off and be ready to roll.

Enter my friend, Dan. We go way back and have been through wives/girlfriends, kids, bands, moving, jobs, health stuff, etc. I have more than a few troublesome balls in the air at the moment that have been weighing on me.  Yesterday,  he texts me " Go and pick up your Loudbox. Any time after today, they will have a fresh, boxed one waiting for you. All paid up. You're welcome and there will be no further discussion of this." He followed up with , "We [he and his wife] thought you needed something good happening."

I was gobsmacked, to say the least,  and a little mad that he would spend that much dough to do something nice for my dumb-ass . . .a $10 DQ gift certificate would have sufficed. We do small stuff like this for each other frequently, and I know if the situation were reversed, I wouldn't hesitate to do the same. I am not just grateful to have such a friend who would do this for me, but beyond grateful to have such a friend, period!

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Never look a gift horse in the mouth... or my favorite saying, "Giving is its own reward".

I understand how you feel. I was raised by my parents to be a giver... always a giver, and I don't "keep score" either.

The flipside to that is that I was never really taught how to be a good "receiver". When someone gives to me, gracious gratefulness is sometimes difficult to demonstrate with sincerity. Because receiving is more alien to me, I often find it difficult to allow others to find the same pleasure by giving to me.

The best thing in your situation is that a pre-existing friendship already cements your relationship, so it's a better comfort zone for both of you. Just roll with it, and pay it forward somewhere down the line.

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My faith in humanity is slightly restored every time I hear stories like this. It's good to have friends, for sure.

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You have a real friend, Andy, that's a really nice thing he and his missus did for you.

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Never look a gift horse in the mouth... or my favorite saying, "Giving is its own reward".

I understand how you feel. I was raised by my parents to be a giver... always a giver, and I don't "keep score" either.

The flipside to that is that I was never really taught how to be a good "receiver". When someone gives to me, gracious gratefulness is sometimes difficult to demonstrate with sincerity. Because receiving is more alien to me, I often find it difficult to allow others to find the same pleasure by giving to me.

The best thing in your situation is that a pre-existing friendship already cements your relationship, so it's a better comfort zone for both of you. Just roll with it, and pay it forward somewhere down the line.

– Tartan Phantom

Indeed, on all counts, Rob!

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Friends don't come better than this, Andy!!

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Your friend is racking up some serious good karma points!


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